We at American Tiger Dojo value your safety and loyalty. Our committment and dedication to our students, families, and friends is #1. Always.
WE WANT TO KEEP YOU PROTECTED. The following are tips and strategies to keep you and your families safe.
OUR STAY SAFE ACTION PLAN FOR WOMEN
Developed by the National Network to End Domestic Violence and the American Tiger School of Self-Defense
The most violent time in an abusive relationship is the minute the woman leaves, or tries to leave.
In fact, in domestic violence cases, more than 70 percent of injuries and murders happen after the victim leaves. This phenomenon is known as separation assault.
Please consider the following Stay Safe Action Plan steps for you or someone you know who is the victim of domestic violence.
After following these simple but important steps for how to leave an abusive relationship safely, you will also be better equipped to keep you and your family safe as well.
The National Network to End Domestic Violence and American Tiger Karate offers these steps for staying safe after leaving an abusive relationship:
* Consider going to a shelter. There is no shame in keeping yourself protected.
* Domestic violence shelters are available to provide safety and to help you get on your feet. In addition to safety, they provide services, support and resources for you and your children.
* Secure your new home. Use the services of a professional locksmith.
* Consider new window and door locks, outdoor lights, an alarm system, steel doors and smoke detectors.
* Don’t move to, or visit secluded areas.
* Move to a neighborhood with lots of neighbors, perhaps an apartment complex, especially with a Neighborhood Watch Program.
* Keep your new address confidential.
* Get a P.O. Box, and don’t give out your real address. Try to rent a home that has utilities included, sign up for an Address Confidentiality Program through your state government, and make sure your voter registration doesn’t have your address.
* Stay off social networking websites
* You don’t want information about who you're friends with and what you're doing public. You don’t know who could be friends with your ex.
* Obtain a protection order. Keep a copy on you at all times. Give copies to family, friends, co-workers and your children’s school.
* Change your patterns
* Shop at new stores, take different routes to work, change coffee shops and gas stations, go to a faith service at a different time, switch to a new bank.
* Secure your accounts.
* Change your passwords, PIN codes, and call utility companies and ask them to add a password that only you know to your account.
* Get a new computer.
* Spyware could be on your old computer, allowing the abuser to know everything you do on the computer and read all of your e-mail.
* Get a new cell phone and number.
* Verizon HopeLine donates phones to victims through local shelters.
* Protect yourself at work. Alert your supervisor and security staff to your situation. Remove your number from the office directory, and even change office locations. Ask security to walk you to your car.
* Develop a Safety Plan with your children and closest friends.
* Teach children what to do if the abuser kidnaps them or breaks into the house. You don't want to scare your children, but help them be prepared. Alert the school or daycare of the danger.
* Don’t isolate yourself at ANY time.
* Don’t park your car in large parking garages. Never jog alone at night or in secluded areas. Park as close to wherever you are as possible.
* Document everything.
* Keep records of all texts, e-mails, stalking and harassment. Keep a video or written journal — and hide it!
* Keep loved ones informed.
* Always tell a trusted person where you are going EVERY DAY. Have check-in times so loved ones always know you are safe.
* Be prepared......always.
* Take a Self-Defense or Karate class. Carry mace or pepper spray.
* Have 911 ready to call when you are walking to your car. Be aware of your environment; if something feels out of the ordinary, IT IS!
* Have a bag packed and ready to go. Include an extra set of keys, identification, car title, birth certificate, clothes for you and your children, money, jewelry..........Anything and Everything important to you.
* Awareness is the Key. Be constantly aware of your surroundings. Don't ever be a victim. Empower yourself. Be confident, strong.....and smart.
Prepared by Sensei Mark Davis and the National Network
to End Domestic Violence