|Posted by Mark Davis Tiger Team on August 23, 2016 at 9:20 PM|
It's often an ugly, cruel and unnecessary part of school life and is a source of misery for millions of children, and adults of well.
More than two million youngsters are bullied at some point in their school years. Of these, 40 per cent suffer bullying twice a week or more.
One in 12 youngsters are bullied so badly that it affects their education, relationships and even their job prospects in later life.
And in 10 to 15 cases every year the bullying reaches such a dreadful level that it drives its young victims to suicide.
These clever methods are taught in special courses for bullied children run by Kidscape, a national charity dedicated to beating bullying, and in our prgrams here at American Tiger Dojo.
- By law, schools must have a way of dealing with bullying. Use your school's anti-bullying policy to get help and if you're not sure how it works, talk to your teacher or headteacher.
- Don't become resigned to being a victim. You CAN help yourself and get others to help you.
- TELL a friend what is happening. It will be harder for the bully to pick on you if you have a pal with you for support.
- Ignore the bully or say "No!" really firmly, then walk away.
Don't worry if people think you are running away - it is very hard for the bully to go on picking on someone who won't stand still to listen to their threats.
- Most bullied children have negative body language - hunched up and looking at the floor. Try to stand straight and make eye contact with people.
- If you don't want to do something, don't give in to pressure. Be firm. Remember, everyone has the right to say no.
- Repeat a statement again and again: "No, you can't have my lunch money, no, you can't have my lunch money!" The bully will get bored because they are not getting anywhere and give up.
- Make your phrase short and precise: Say "It's my pencil." or "Go away" firmly.
- Never show that you are upset or angry. Bullies love to get a reaction - it's "fun". Keep calm and hide your emotions - the bully might get bored and leave you alone.
- Avoid being alone in places where you know the bully is likely to be. This might mean changing your route to school, or avoiding certain parts of the playground, or only using toilets when other people are there. It's not fair, but it might put the bully off. Remember, your safety is the most important thing to consider.
- Stop thinking like a victim. If you have been bullied for a long time, you might start to believe what the bully says - that you're ugly, awful and no one will ever like you. This is "victim-think".
Practice "walking tall". Bullies pick on people they think are weak. If you look confident, the bully is less likely to pick on you.
STICK with a group - even if they are not really your friends. Bullies tend to pick on people when they are on their own.
KEEP a diary about what is happening. A written record of the bullying makes it much easier to prove what has been going on.
All in all....it's often easier to be a victim, than to be be strong and stand up to a bully. But take it from me....stand tall, be confident....and share that inner Super Hero.
- Sensei Mark